Ever felt out of control, overwhelmed or even exhausted?
I can often fall into the trap of rushing through my day, forgetting cups of tea and the feeling of not having enough hours in the day.
I’ve recently spent time reflecting on why I function in this way and I have noticed a constant feeling of worry. The worry of not getting to work on time, the worry of not getting my jobs done, the worry of not reaching my deadlines. When I worry, I make mistakes, lose concentration and feel rushed all of the time.
Worrying is an automatic response, we haven’t chosen to feel or act in these ways. In fact, it comes from our experiences and how we were brought up. For example, if you come from a family of worriers, the chances are you’ll be a worrier. However, this does not mean we cannot learn to be calmer and more in control.
Now that I am aware of how worrying affects me, how do I manage it? It is tricky thinking about changing the way you feel and behave. We are good at giving others advise and guidance, simply because it is easier. If I could imagine what I would say to a friend, I would perhaps encourage them to slow down, maybe ask for help and plan in some breaks throughout the day. When I look at these suggestions, they don’t feel impossible but instead ways of helping me to feel calmer and more in control.
Worrying can be caused by things, I often see clients with worries regarding families, relationships and work. Sometimes worry can be caused by life events such as getting married, having a baby or bereavement.
Worrying can sometimes feel lonely and isolating and at times it can be overwhelming. Counselling can offer you a safe space to explore these life events and can enable you to feel calmer and more in control.
If you would like to know more about how counselling can support you, get in touch.