New Year Resolutions is a very western tradition, the origins go back to the Romans where they made promises to the god Janus. The month of January was named after Janus.
The most common resolutions are losing weight, improving finances, improve career, settling down, getting married, having a baby…. the list goes on.
How realistic are resolutions?
Unfortunately, the common mistake in setting resolutions is setting unrealistic goals.
In 2007 Richard Wiseman at the University of Bristol conducted a study on 33,000 people where 88% of them failed to keep to their New Year’s Resolution.
What could we do differently?
Well, size matters.
When setting out New Year resolutions or goals, size matters. This means, making it smaller, manageable, achievable and realistic.
For example, if you decided your goal for 2020 was to run a marathon, you wouldn’t sign up to the next marathon and just do it. It would require training, building your confidence, testing out local 5k and 10k runs to help build you up for a marathon.
Whether you want to lose weight or change your career, think about what steps you need to make to get to your main goal.
Resolutions are not just for the New Year!
The expectations of the “New Year, New You” attitude promotes unrealistic pressure. Resolutions and goals can be set at any time of the year; it is more of what feels right for you.
Tips on setting resolutions/goals
- Get creative! Use a large piece of paper and colours to write/draw what you would like to achieve. Write all small and big resolutions.
- Look at your piece of paper and pick out one resolution that you feel you want to achieve right now.
- Once you have chosen your resolution, think about what you need to help you achieve it. What smaller steps do you need to put in place to help you get there? Is there anyone that can help or support you to achieve it?
- Reward yourself for every small achievement you have made towards your resolution; rewards motivate us!
- Review your journey towards your resolution, it’s okay to change your direction, make adaptations and be flexible.
(Reference https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/New_Year%27s_resolution (accessed 07/01/2020)
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